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\"Trust in him at all times, you people;\npour out your hearts to him,\nfor God is our refuge.\"\nPsalm 62:8 (NIV)<\/pre>\n\n\n\nSongs can help us pour out our heart and grief to God. At times, we may feel such shock from a loss that it can make us feel almost speechless. The songs below helped me after my youngest child died unexpectedly. Many of the lyrics articulated my questions and my emotions, and yet gave me hope that God was still faithful in the midst of it all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not for a Moment<\/strong><\/a> by Meredith Andrews<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes when we\u2019re experiencing intense suffering, it is difficult to see clearly or feel God\u2019s presence. This song reminds us that even in those dark moments, God has not left us. The songwriter, Meredith Andrews, had written the song before her relative\u2019s 40-week baby\u2019s heart stopped beating as they were going to see her at the hospital. She shares how God used the song to minister to her own family afterwards here<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Eye of the Storm<\/strong><\/a> <\/strong>by <\/strong>Ryan Stevenson<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A friend thoughtfully texted me this song early one morning after our baby died. It comforts me to know God still loves us and is still sovereign over the difficulties in our lives. Ryan Stevenson shares how this song came from a period of intense loss in his own life, such as when he and his wife grieved the loss of their twins through miscarriage here<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019re Not Finished Yet<\/strong><\/a> <\/strong>by The Belonging Co.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I heard this song on my first Mother\u2019s Day without my baby at a church event for grieving moms, I couldn\u2019t stop shedding tears. The song reminded me of how God was working in my own heart, but also in the lives of the different people that Samuel\u2019s short life had touched. I thought of many people who rarely would set foot in a church worship service, yet willingly gave up their Saturday to assist and come to our baby\u2019s memorial service, which gave us the opportunity to share the eternal hope of Christ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
See<\/strong><\/a> by Steven Curtis Chapman<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We chose to play this song during the slideshow video for our son\u2019s memorial service. Even now, it still brings tears to my eyes when I hear the first notes of this song. The singer and songwriter, Steven Curtis Chapman, had a daughter who died at a young age in a tragic accident. The last word his daughter wrote on a drawing was \u201cSEE\u201d<\/a> that formed the basis of this song. The lyrics acknowledge the pain of only seeing sorrow and the questions that surround grief, but look beyond to seeing our child\u2019s life in heaven as much better than here on earth. The song gives hope to believers being reunited with their children in the future, as is written:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away<\/p>Revelation 21:4 (NIV)<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Always<\/strong><\/a> <\/strong>by JJ Heller<\/p>\n\n\n\n
J J Heller wrote this poem for mothers who had experienced a miscarriage and then turned it into a touching song. I first heard this when Belle Donne, an event for grieving mothers, was held online due to COVID-19. There are more stories from Belle Donne at the link here<\/a>. You may want to gather some other moms to watch it with you. It is a great springboard for discussion about grief and loss and informative for those who may want to understand better those who have lost a loved one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Blessings<\/strong><\/a> by Laura Story <\/p>\n\n\n\n
My cousin\u2019s daughter sang this song beautifully at our baby\u2019s memorial service. The song contains honest cries out to God in the midst of pain. It is a good reminder that heaven is our real home and that God can use trials to draw us closer to Him. Laura Story shares how during a difficult time in her life she expanded her view of what a blessing meant here<\/a>. She experienced how God could use her waiting in the valleys and turn it into a blessing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
God\u2019s Not Done With You<\/strong><\/a> by Tauren Wells<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This song often encouraged me when all I could see were shattered dreams of a life without my baby. Yet God has a greater plan for using our pain for good that sometimes we cannot see immediately. We may feel like we failed, but God has not given up on us yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Rescue<\/strong><\/a> by Lauren Daigle<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A friend gave us a CD of Lauren Daigle\u2019s Look Up Child<\/em> shortly after our baby died. I played it constantly, as the poetic songs spoke to my broken heart. The song is a beautiful image of God initiating a relationship with us and searching for us even in the midst of our brokenness. God hears our cries for help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Look Up Child<\/strong><\/a> by Lauren Daigle<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Although this song has an upbeat rhythm, sometimes I found that was exactly what I needed some days on my grief journey; a song to perk me up and encourage me that God is still in control even in the storms in my life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Raise a Hallelujah<\/strong><\/a> by Bethel Music<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Although the title of this song seems like the opposite of what one might be feeling after a significant loss, the chorus below reminds us of the hope that Jesus Christ is victorious over death:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI\u2019m gonna sing in the middle of the storm . . .<\/em>\nUp from the ashes, hope will arise.<\/em>\nDeath is defeated, the King is alive.\u201d<\/em><\/pre>\n\n\n\nIt is Well<\/strong><\/a> by Horatio Spafford <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is a well-known hymn that was written during a time when Horatio Spafford received the tragic news that his four children had died at sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n